My life as Kati.

Mom’s and mommy to be’s!

So yesterday I had a small rant expressing my frustration about State assistance and how people abuse it. I was upset because I checked into rent assistance to help get a leg up on finding a two bedroom apartment for myself, Emery, and Shelden. Well long story short there is a 2 year waiting list. I posted a rant on tumblr and on a pregnancy site about how frustrating it is to need assistance on top of busting ass to provide for yourself. The responses I got on the parenting website were terrible. I realize everyone has their personal opinions and views on young parents, but to be entirely fair 19 is not that young. I am legally an adult and I’m expected to act like one by paying bills, taxes, holding a job, etc. So why is my decision to have and raise my daughter looked down on by the “older generations”. Anyways, women on the site sent me responses saying to give my daughter up for adoption and basically telling me that living with my fiance’s parents was the better option because I wouldn’t be able to raise my child anyways. To put it simply, they were beyond rude. My question is am I really being unreasonable for wanting and trying to go after bigger and better things for my family? I know I could share a room with the baby for a couple of years, but the point is that if there is a way to have something bigger and better why shouldn’t I go after it? I really don’t see where wanting a two bedroom apartment is being unreasonable. Her father and myself are both planning on working full time and attending school even after she is here so why shouldn’t we be allowed to have a nice place where we are comfortable. It will afterall be our HOME. I will admit that my rant could have been worded better and I did correct it after the first few responses I received, but in all honesty did I really deserve to be ambushed for expressing my frustration about people abusing the help they receive from the state? I think it’s safe to say that being a young parent will never be accepted, even IF you are taking the essential steps to care for your child yourself, without someone else’s help. There is never anyway to satisfy everyone. Either you’re a bad mom for having your own parents support financially or you’re a bad mom because you’re doing it all on your own. I’m genuinely confused. help?

(Source: dancekatidance)

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